Saturday, April 21, 2012

Goodbye to my beautiful mother

Pardon my absence. I haven't blogged since my mother's death last Friday; I'm posting this picture for Saturday snapshot hosted by Alyce on her blog, At Home with Books. It dates back to World War II.  Some of you may recall my mum had been ill recently; she had pnuemonia and had been in the hospital. When she was released back to her nursing home, she seemed to rally a bit but ultimately she didn't make it. She passed away last Friday, Friday the 13th! She was 86 and prior to developing Alzheimer's about a dozen years ago, had a rich and wonderful life. I will miss her; I will especially miss the real Enid Maud Good (formerly Hayden). While her faculties diminished and language faded, one thing that stayed was her lovely English accent and her use of the word 'love'.
It was so comforting to have the nursing home care givers tell us how she used to wheel herself up and down the halls all day and how much they loved her English accent and how she would call them all "Love".
She was part of that great generation who came of age in World War II. Coincidentally - or not? I've been reading The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society, the post- World War II book that deals with the German occupation of the island. I can't help but think of my mother when I read or hear about life in England during the wartime years. Like the children of Guernsey, who were sent to the British countryside in hopes of keeping them safe from the bombing, my mother's brothers were evacuated from London--- thousands of children were evacuated in 1939 - -( see the video below); she escorted them with her mother's instructions to keep the boys together which turned out to be impossible. She was just 14 and was housed briefly herself. I grew up fascinated with her stories of rationing, painting on stocking seams, running from bombs and hiding in her family's Morrison shelter. She met my dad, an officer in the British army, when he was home on leave.
Anyway,  my mother is a bit too young to have been Juliet Ashton - she was 21 in 1946 - but I couldn't help but think of her throughout this moving and poignant portrayal of strength. I think Kate Winslet will be wonderful. I'd like to see Aaron Eckhart as the American publisher who pursues her, perhaps the lovely Colin Firth as Dawsey. A proper review is forthcoming.
Goodbye Love, I will never forget your stories, your strength, your love.

24 comments:

  1. I am so sorry about the loss of your Mum. She was really beautiful. I think I told you another time, when you had said she was in the hospital, that I lost my Mom and Dad both to Alzheimer's. They would be about your Mum's age or a year younger. That generation is passing swiftly now and with them, their stories. I've read two books recently about WWII Britain and found them so interesting. My Dad was in the Pacific in the Army and my mother waited here for him. They married in 1946, right after he came home.

    Hugs to you. Again, my deepest sympathies. I think that I truly understand.

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    1. I remember your comment - having both parents suffer from Alzheimer's is entirely too much to fathom. I think you do truly understand and I so appreciate your kind words. Thank you!

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  2. What a wonderful tribute to your mother. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  3. So sorry for you loss. That is a wonderful picture of her.

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    1. Thank you! She does loook quite fetching doesn't she.

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  4. I'm so sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing your mother's beautiful picture and story!

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    1. Thank you Cheryl. Just being able to post her picture and talk about it is so comforting!

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  5. I'm so sorry for your loss! That photo of your mother is beautiful and I loved your story of her calling everyone "Love."

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    1. Thanks Love. It's my favorite picture of her as a young woman ... and knowing what was happening in her world at a time makes it even more beautiful to me.
      Thanks for providing a forum with your Saturday Snapshot for sharing it; it's so helpful to be able to do that.

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  6. I can't tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I fully understand how you must feel, while my mom is still alive,the dementia has taken her almost completely away from us. I'm so glad you and I will have wonderful memories, and great stories that no book could ever replicate for us. Once again my deepest sympathies for your very GREAT loss.

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    1. Irene, I'm so sorry for you as well. It's awful how the disease does take them from us long before their deaths. That is one of the hardest things, that little by little you keep losing parts of them, that you are continually in mourning.

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  7. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. Lovely photo.

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    1. Thanks Diane; I'm very glad to have it.

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  8. A lovely and heartfelt tribute to your Mum. My thoughts are with you.

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  9. My condolences on the loss of your beautiful, wonderful mother. I watched that video clip and it is so searing -- the music is so perfect for it. And to think that your very own mother lived through such trying times, as a young teenager. It is so moving. You've also interested me in the book you are mentioning -- it's an era I find so fascinating.

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    1. It is a fascinating era, I agree, and a fascinating book. The love story while predictable is pleasantly so; I really enjoyed it.

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  10. I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful mother. She must truly have been wonderful to have earned such a loving and heartfelt tribute. It sounds like she led a good, long life and blessed you with many lovely memories. I hope those memories help you through this time.

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    1. Thank you Martha. Yes, lots of wonderful memories! I appreciate your thoughts.

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  11. Hey Sim...So, so sorry to read about your mother. I had noticed you were not around for awhile...

    So, if you look at her picture and at your profile picture, you two really look alike. I don't know why I mention it, but I thought it might make you happy to hear.

    Well, so much for me being a great writer - I cannot think of anything to say to make you feel better :( Except I'm sorry and that was a really great post.

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  12. Libby, you make me smile. Thanks for saying I look a bit like my mom. You were right, that does make me happy. And that is plenty for you to say :)

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  13. I'm so sorry about the loss of your mother. She was very beautiful. It's so difficult to lose those you love so deeply.

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  14. Very sorry to hear about your mother. Dementia is such a horrible disease. I am going through this now with my own mother and can empathize with your loss.

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